Supporting Someone Who Is Grieving: What to Say and What Not to Say

When someone you care about is grieving, it can be hard to know what to say or do. You want to help, but fear saying the wrong thing or making them feel worse. The truth is, your presence and kindness matter more than perfect words.

What to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving

• I’m here for you. Simple and genuine, this shows your support without pressure.

• It’s okay to feel however you’re feeling. Validating their emotions helps them feel seen and accepted.

• I’m thinking of you and your loved one. Expressing care keeps the memory alive and shows you remember.

• Take all the time you need. Grief is not a race, and patience is a gift you can give.

• Would you like to talk or just sit together? Offering different types of support lets them choose what feels right.

What Not to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving

• Everything happens for a reason. Though often well-meaning, this can feel dismissive of their pain.

• You should be over it by now. Grief has no timeline, and this can add unnecessary pressure.

• At least they’re in a better place. This can minimize the realness of the loss they feel.

• You need to be strong. It’s okay to show vulnerability and ask for help.

• I know exactly how you feel. Everyone’s grief is unique; better to listen than compare.

How Grief Counseling Can Help You Support Your Loved One

Understanding grief is the first step to providing meaningful support. Grief counseling can help you learn how to navigate your own feelings while being there for someone else. At Crosstown Psychology, we offer in-person grief counseling in Sacramento and virtual sessions throughout California to guide you and your loved ones through this journey.

If you or someone you care about is struggling with loss, help is available.

Call us at (209) 650-1123 or click the button below to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. Let us support you in finding healing and hope.

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